I’m so bad at this blogging thing. It’s not that I don’t think about things to write about during my days, it’s just that I’m too much like my mother and I don’t sit down enough to write them down. Too many distractions, too many things around the house to keep my hands occupied and too many urgent things taking the place of truly important things. So as I sit to write tonight there are about a thousand things I could write about from the past month, but what would be most meaningful? I guess since this blog is mostly for me I guess it’s time to do some real relfecting on my life and where I’m at (ooh, but that sounds painful…but it’s so necessary). I’m having more and more moments where it feels like I’m close to falling off the edge of something. I feel like I’m not the person I thought I was when I was in China just a year ago. Some images that have come to mind to describe myself are these…
a piece of toast- dry and crumbling
a pig in mud- content to be in a mess and not do much to get out
a train skidding off the tracks- making all kinds of screeching sounds and awful noises as it tries to plug along as best as it knows how
I don’t think I’ve ever felt like this for so long! Boy this year being at home has been hard so far. If I didn’t have my brothers and Carly and Tamara around for at least some social interactions and some unconditional acceptance I think I might have been a complete basket case by now. Feelings of instability are so frequent (when I take the time to stop and think about it). In fact when I think about my overall health and well being, there are moments when I can say that the only part of me that is really healthy is my physical aspect. In that way I’m healthier than I’ve ever been and feeling physically better than ever (thanks to Body for Life), but my spiritual life is in the pits and it affects everything else. EVERYTHING else. My perspective, attitude, mental capacity, ability to handle stress, and socially I’m just not a nice person anymore. At least it feels like I have no fruits of the Spirit at the moment, and I suppose it’s not hard to figure out why that would be. The worst part about my distance from God is the apathy that I sometimes feel about it. I just feel too tired to do much about it (this is where the pig in mud image comes in). I must not have a clear understanding of His love and grace at the moment, and maybe if I were a parent myself I would understand better how He feels about me and that would motivate me to moving closer than I am now. It’s hard to know the reason for my depressed state right now..is it because my faith is weak now that it is affecting everything else, or is it reverse culture shock that is having an effect on every part of my life and making things so tough. I don’t know why and I don’t know if it matters that I figure it out. I guess I knew this year would be tough in some ways, but I just didn’t realize how it would play itself out. I’m not meaning to complain, just saying where I’m at…so I can keep moving.
I guess I’ll end with a famous quote (but I forget who said it) that I’ll keep in mind for now:
”If you’re going through hell, keep going.”







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March 5, 2007 at 4:21 am
Chelsey
hmmmmmmmmm i know exactly how you are feeling. thank you for being so honest and open. sometimes i am afraid to post blogs like this one because i feel like i have to meet a certain standard. you know, be honest, but not TOO honest. i love that quote at the end. keep going keep going, soon you will be in a new phase of life and this will all be a memory.
March 5, 2007 at 5:53 pm
Suzanne McMillan
Hi Shannon!
Thank you for being so real and honest. I can totally identify with what you are saying and have felt in the same place for my first couple of years here in calgary. Just too tired or stuck to even try to get closer to Him. I cling to “His yoke is easy and His burden is light” please set me free Lord from my pit. I know not everything has the same impact in the same way on people but I will share what has really been freeing me right now. I went to a Beth Moore simulcast last weekend and she talked about God’s deliverance and I bought her book “Get out of that Pit” and it has sparked some real joy and change in me so far. For me it has been a weird place spiritually to live in because I could not really describe it to others or myself and did not really even know what to pray for if I was even praying. Not saying we feel the same way but some of what you said i identified with. Thanks for sharing. You are in my prayers!
Love,
Suzanne
March 6, 2007 at 4:15 pm
John
Hey,
It was good of you to loan our your husband to me on Friday, he’s a good man. And thanks to Body for Life or whatever its called, he’s now a sexy man. Not like he wasn’t before. He was. But now he really is. My point is, your husband is sexy. But not in a creepy way in a Godly way because you know, his muscles are from . . .God.. and so, um. . ..his voice still cracks though. Did you know that? Teehee.
Re: how your feeling. Been there, done that. Too often. I think the more we desire God and his kingdom the more depressed we can get. Why is that? I have some ideas but no need to muddle up your post with opinions.
The one thing I’ve also appreciated about you is you tell it like it is. I think that allows more people to identify with you plus it allows you to heal because you’re being honest.
It’ll pass Shannon, it always does. When I’ve been there Angie, Ronald Rolheiser, Psalms, Funny Shows and Jack Daniels have always seen me through. Kidding about Jack D, he’s never done squat for me.
John
March 8, 2007 at 2:57 am
Nicole
Hi Shannon,
I’m not sure if you remember me – I went to WCC in ‘95 (from Australia)…I’m not sure if I have posted on your blog before. I just wanted to send you a word of encouragement…I will try to pray for you regularly as you adjust to the western world again and as you go through this ‘desert’ time. Those are hard times. I am not sure if how you are feeling is largely related to ‘re-entry’. I read a book which helped me a lot called ‘The Art of Going Home’ by Craig Storti…it offers some unique insights regarding cultural re-entry. love, Nicole (Lewis) Whaley
March 9, 2007 at 4:08 am
Laurie
oh Shannon! Please consider yourself hugged! I, too, appreciate your honesty. I have a hard time being that open and honest on my blog.
I am sure that everything will get better. And we all know you for you! And I think you are too hard on yourself! PRAYING FOR YOU!
Looking forward to spending some time with you guys!!
Take Care. Love you lots!! Laurie